What up, Legend?
One of the most frequent questions I get asked is, “Nate, how do I get to the next level?”
This next level can be anything from Fitness, Nutrition, Mindset, Business, Relationships, Managing Money, etc…
These areas of opportunity are our metaphorical “push-ups”, meaning it’s going to take effort, intention, and a plan to achieve the result we desire.
Remember, you can outsource everything but the pushups!
YOU must do the work.
And this journey starts internally before it is expressed externally.
Change is inevitable, but growth is a choice.
We are motivated by two things: pain and pleasure.
Some say that pain is a greater motivator than pleasure, and it may be at a certain time in your life.
However, if we ONLY focus on pain it will eventually lead to exhaustion because we get what we focus on.
Since we ALL desire to become the best version of ourselves, how do we make the changes to accomplish that?
It’s through harnessing the Pain vs. Pleasure Principle.
This states that people will stay the same UNTIL the pain of staying the outweighs the pain of change.
The pain of staying the same will get you off the couch, but once you that happens, what’s next?
You must have a direction to move towards with intention.
This is what I mean by “The carrot is more powerful than the whip”.
Have the direction you are moving towards and focus on that.
Because if I’m just focused on what I don’t want, I get more of that.
Let me break this down…
Your mind is comprised of two parts: the conscious mind and unconscious mind.
Think of your conscious mind as the “goal-setter” and your unconscious is the “goal-getter”.
Meaning you consciously set a goal, but you unconsciously accomplish it.
Sometimes this is why we stay stuck after setting a goal, because there are things in our past (traumas, old programming, etc.) holding us back.
Your unconscious is designed to protect you, so sometimes these traumas can be repressed.
So be encouraged because when these challenges (push-ups) come up, you HAVE THE RESOURCES TO CONQUER THE CHALLENGE!
Otherwise it wouldn’t even be in your consciousness!
Another one of the core functions of your unconscious mind is that it CANNOT process a negative.
What did you think about when your mom told you: “Honey don’t put your hand in the cookie jar”?
THE COOKIE JAR!!!
So when you say “I don't want to be stressed anymore”, or “I don’t want to be fat”, or “I don’t want to be broke”, all your unconscious mind only hears stress, fat, and broke.
The carrot is more powerful than the whip.
What are we moving towards, not just away from?
Here’s my four step process in order to do that:
#1: Have a Clearly Defined Goal.
My favorite Tony Robbins quote is: “The purpose of a goal isn't to achieve it, it's who you need to become in the process of achieving it.”
Meaning your goal gives you the direction, but in order to achieve the outcome, we must focus on the process and be flexible in how this will be accomplished.
Joy is found in the process, never the outcome.
#2: Have an Unstoppable Why.
Your unstoppable why is your purpose, and this is found through the people around you.
It takes time.
Have patience.
It’s not a microwave process.
This is where we depend on the Holy Spirit (our intuition) to guide us.
When you reach your Unstoppable Why, emotions like peace, love, joy, hope, freedom etc. will come up.
These are the highest vibration emotions and usually tears will accompany come along with this too.
And that’s a GREAT SIGN!
***if you haven’t arrived at these emotions yet, KEEP GOING!!!***
#3: Have a System, Strategy, and/or Playbook.
You need to have a playbook to follow, which a proven system that get results.
This is the shortest path to success, because the person that created the playbook has taken some arrows in their back and learned from experience.
You can try to do this on your own, but be prepared to take the arrows in YOUR back.
This is where we focus on the PROCESS, and what we need to do on a daily basis.
Focus on no more than THREE things to do on a daily basis.
Any more than three will lead to a feeling of overwhelm (and I’m speaking from personal experience).
I call these my First Downs.
In football the team that averages the most first downs, averages the most points because they focus on the process.
#4: Have Community and Accountability.
It must be bigger than yourself.
You will let yourself down before you let other people down.
This is Psychology 101.
Parents will do anything for their children and neglect themselves.
But, when you have that community around you that challenges you to be the best version of yourself, success is inevitable!
Remember you're the product of the five closest people to you.
The good news is that community and accountability can come in many forms like coaching, online groups, or apps.
Join our community here!
The only excuse is the one you create.
My hope is that this encourages you!
If you need help in this process, reach out to me right now!
I would love to do a complimentary Clarity Call with you to help you conquer this process because guess what?
MY purpose and Unstoppable Why is for to you say: “Because of you Nate, I was able to conquer my push-ups!”
Have a fantastic day and please share this with someone who needs to hear this and would be encouraged by it.
LET’S BE GREAT!!!
Your Friend,
Nate